5 Ways For A Happy Cross Culture Relationship

Many might curious about the content of this post after reading the title. YES, I’m here to share my views to people who wanna start their life with some one who is different by all means. My intention is not to appreciate or vilipend the relationship,  rather just to give you an idea on areas to improvise mutually to carry forward the love and relationship as strong as always. Am i sound so matured?,  really I’m not. Its just i wanna share things with you as it might boost confidence in you in choosing your right partner.

World has become so small, people are exposed almost to every single thing happening everywhere. The kids growing in Delhi, Singapore, Shanghai or any other Asian city are very well informed about everything  just like kids in any other Western city.  I guess the future generation will be matured enough to appreciate and respect all cultures, peoples , places and foods which might lead them to settle in new places with very new culture and food habits with some one from another new culture.

However the world change, there may be n number of ways to keep the relationship happy and warmth.,To me, from my experience the basic 5 areas to keep the relationship happy are as follows,

1. Mutual Respect

This is so important even for a couple from same cultural background. I’m not talking only about having respect for each other culture here,  I’m talking about having respect for each other opinions, views, food-habits, hobbies and the very small things we do in every day life. Appreciate or learn to appreciate the partner’s way of doing things and at the same time don’t hesitate to express the unhappiness if you feel it’s not appropriate on that very occasion.It’s so important to be open-minded to embrace some other culture than your own which you thought its the best as always.

2. Communicate , Communicate and ….Communicate

I have noticed people have a misconception about communication and love. Many think the partner should knew every happenings of the other even without communicating verbally. This sounds so stupid to me at this modern world where every one is busy with their profession and family. I strongly believe you need to communicate each and everything to your partner to keep the relationship transparent and healthy which might be helpful to make a wise decision together at different levels of your life.

Communicate your plan, idea or whatever you are doing or going to do in future clearly. This might reduce all the mis-understanding, mis-interpretations and mis-expectations all your life which in-turn helps you for a consistent happy life.

3. Learn to Prioritize

This is important too. As we face always list of tasks to be accomplished at the same time. Some time you might have planned things with your in-laws and you might be asked to do some other thing by your parents at the same time.  These kind of situations are common in any family and as a cross culture couple , its so important to prioritize which one to go for. Its one of the tedious practice but to keep your relationship happy you need to be smart in choosing which will be good for everyone.Even though I don’t have a technique here , all i can say is , Prioritize based on the importance and complexity of the situation.

4. No to Third Party

Whatever the issue between the couple, how serious it is,  try to discuss and solve it between yourselves and for God-sake don’t bring your problems to  friends, parents, siblings or to any relatives and well wishers. Take your time , be alone for a while and give a thought about the issue and the reason for it. Even though you conclude its not because of you and you found the fault with the other, don’t be egoistic and blow the problem bigger. Rather go to your partner and try to convince at the very moment and you may make her understood the issue at a later time even though its her fault.

5. Not Obligation but  Love

Live, enjoy and appreciate every moment of life with love, care and kindness with your loved ones. Just don’t live for society, relatives, custom, etc, etc. For goodness, please stop comparing each and everything with your neighbors, relatives, friends or colleagues. Do whatever you wish which brings happiness for your family. Don’t take things as granted, try to appreciate small changes ,  like new hairstyle,  new job, etc, etc. Its always fun to have celebrations even for silly reasons in a small way.Its important to be activity partners. Learn others interests, hobbies or sports and do things together as much as you can.

Since marriage has become a very bond between two singles rather than two family as before, I tried to express my views on leading a happy married life in this post.Hope this was fun and useful a bit at-least.

Thanks for reading my blog one more time. Appreciate your feedback/comments. Happy Living!